Last summer, July to be exact, a dear and close pet of mine named Creme, (Though I pronounce it Cream,) passed away due to unknown causes. She had a sister, her cage mate, (whom is still alive today,) named Peaches. It's October now, on the cusp of November, yet still I find myself unable to let go, I still grieve, less than when she died initially, but still enough to hurt. She died of unknown causes, as stated before, but I remember the days leading up to her death she was panting and didn't move a lot. (This had happened before, in the winter, however, she got over it after we left her alone awhile, I believe.) We never took her to the vet, my mother wasn't especially for taking her to the vet anyhow, if I remember correctly, and we did indeed check on her, even sometimes I offered her food and some water from her water bottle, and she more often came to drink water than eat when I offered her food, (this is not to say she didn't eat and drink when my back was turned, but I don't know.) Now I still grieve her death, like I said not quite as extreme, but still, and the worst is I can't help wondering if it was my fault somehow, either in lack of responsibility, or and (I know this sounds kind of crazy, but then again, we all have crazy thoughts sometimes), I think I remember wanting to get another pet, but my parents weren't so for that either, so I wonder if in order to get a new pet, this somehow led to her death. Please, please, PLEASE, do not criticize or call me crazy, unless it's constructive criticism, which will help me get over this loss. I hope some of you know how I feel and I bet some do, so feel free to share your experiences as well, thank you very much, I hope I can someday feel not so sad of her death.
I lost my horse almost a year ago. I had her for 5 years and she was my best friend. I know that sounds corny but horses aren't really pets but companions. Anyways. Her death was violent and I experienced some post traumatic stress from it. Saw a therapist for it. The only thing that can really get you through this is time. Have a good support group, friends, family, significant other, etc. Time makes it easier. Allow yourself to cry about it; I still do. Someday you'll be able to think of them without being sad. Time, love, a new pet will help when you're ready. I got a new horse a couple months ago and I'm finally turning a corner. And as for the guilt. I had some too. I slept through half of her episode before she died. What if I had been up? What if my phone wasn't on silent and I got there sooner? But everything happens for a reason. I don't think my horse wanted me to see her that way and that's why I slept through most of it and by the time I got there she was highly sedated. You can't blame yourself. It's in God's (or whoevers ..) hands. Good luck!
In the same situation as you, I don't think you will ever get over the lost of your pet you just have to think of good things that your pet did cute actions they did and be glad you had them for as long as you did
what kind of pet? its possible her cage mate killed her .. (internal injuries from fight ?)
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all pets should be cared for enough that they go to the vet if sick or injured.
sorry for your loss, I have lost many, many pets .. of course I am also in my 40's
I am so sorry to hear about your pet I understand 100%. My cat died 3 months ago after being in family for 20 years even though she had been ill I still find things to feel guilty about, the fact that I was not here the day she died is one, the fact I did not have the guts to have her put down at the vets is another. I have made the decision not to have another pet but I know I might change my mind. The feelings you are experiencing are normal and will pass in time, and then you will be able to remember your pet without crying and just be glad they were part of your life. Best wishes.
Sorry for your loss!
I lost my dog a few months back after having him for more than a decade. I, like you, feel guilty because I left him with my parents when I went to college. Pets die, it's the way of life. It's not entirely your fault, but I think you shouldn't get a new pet until you're ready for the responsibility that comes with it.
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Owning a pet is like having a child. You must take them to the vet regularly and give them the necessary shots. You need to be willing to make time for them and be conscious that it might require effort on your part (some treatments are costly ). People don't think much of owning a pet, but it's important to be conscious of the responsibility of another living thing.
I now how you feel, but in life it is important to remember the good times. When you think of your pet, try to remember the joy that came with having him around. More importantly you need to move on, concentrate in other things that make you happy.
It's also ok to cry, it helps me grieve. When I lost my dog, I curled up with my favorite comfort food and watched "My Dog Skip":
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CjX7QJwzp-U
