hi. i have been horseback riding for 6 years now. i would say im a pretty decent rider. this girl at my barn has only been riding 1 year and only been taking lessons for 6 months. shes already twice as far up in her lessons as i am. i cant help but be jelous b/c i have been riding longer. i know its bad. how to not be jelous? thanks.

That is a hard situation. I'm the same way. I have a twin, and all my life, she has been the better rider. It just comes more naturally to some people. Just remember that there are things that you are better at than her.

Just ignore those feelings and do your best to be nice. Don't act out in anger or frustration, because that will help no one. Put that extra frustrated energy into your riding and improving yourself. Stop comparing yourself to her and work to reach your own goals. Jealousy is a part of life, so get used to it. There are always going to be people who are better than you at certain things, but that doesn't make you less of a person.

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i have been riding for like five years and there is a girl who has been riding like a year and she is four years younger then me she is in more advanced lessons and has a pony she is also a little snob and i am jealous of her, you cant compare your self to this other girl because your different then her she may just lean things faster then you that does not mean she is better, she may not have to really work for anything it could be handed to her. but just keep working on your riding and don't compare your self to other riders, don't let her riding get you down.

Just think of it this way. She might be "further up" in lessons than you, but you will be the better rider in the end. It takes more than 1 year to be a great rider. Heck, i have been riding for 9 years and i'm still correcting my position and perfecting my riding style. You maybe be going slower, but if you were to be in a horse show with her, you would win because you'll have a better position. The judges wont care if she's does more things than you! They only care whose better! pets question and answers,www.5d2d.com

Hope i helped!

Am in a similar situation :-)

For some people, riding is a talent that just comes natural. For people like you and me, it's something we have to work for. I know exactly how you feel, there's a similar girl at my barn who is incredibly talented and probably twice the rider that I am, while I've been riding twice as long as she has under the same instructor.
Step back and take a look at the big picture. While you may be jealous that she's just being "handed" all the achievements you've worked so hard to get, you EARNED them. Pride yourself that you've proven your worth twice over and worked for everything you've received. You'll win in the end. Just keep your eyes on the prize.

just think of it this way, you actually know it better! b/c you have the experience, you can handle things better than she can, if you had to think up something on the spot you have more knowledge, btw iv been there, im riding with girls i started with but, my pony got sick and lost a whole summer (better now) :) but it held me back a little and now i have more experience but i dont do as much, make sence?

personal experience

While she might be a better rider at this point think of how much more experience you have on this girl. She might ride smoother but I bet you can handle a situation a lot better than she could because you have been around horses a lot longer than she has. I was in a similar situation. I had been riding for about five years and this girl just waltzed into my barn and she was a beautiful rider I have to admit. As if she had no flaws, but one day one of the horses she was riding began to buck and she didn't know how to handle the situation. I look back at that day and realized I was aware on how to handle that situation and that gave me a sense of pride. So don't compare yourself to her at all. Riding comes more naturally to others however, horsemanship takes years of experience. Just focus on your riding.

Good luck.

It's okay to be jealous. I know so many people who started riding years after me, and they went off to Germany and purchased some $100,000 warmbloods. The girl had only been riding a year, and the mom just a little over a year. With lots of money and nice horses they just hopped themselves into the jumper ring, the mom doing the 1.10m and the daughter doing the 1.30m. I mean, of course I am jealous. They have been riding a year and have accomplished more than I have in 10 years of riding. They show all over the world, and they are wonderful riders because they take 5 lessons a week. They are really nice people but I will always be jealous. It's not hate, but more a good jealously towards them. I've always shown a good attitude towards everyone else. Even if it makes me feel crappy I know it makes them feel good. It's better than me saying a rude comment to make myself feel better. I focus on myself and my horse and I feel happy about my own accomplishments. If you do the same, focus on yourself and I guarantee you will see success. Work hard yourself and keep a good attitude and karma will do the rest, I promise.