Okay so it would be a dream come true if I could take lessons. No joke. I have tried everything and my stupid mom just wont give in. Im 15 right now and have been trying since i was 13. I first tried asking to take lessons but she said she didnt have the money. So then I tried asking around places to do barn chores in exchange for lessons. And I finally found this one place but they wanted me to come three days a week which my mom said she didnt have the time during the week. So then I found this other place about 6 months ago that would let me come and do it on weekends but then my mom said it was a little too far away (which i guess i agree), but then last week I found this place thats only 10-15 mins away where I would come and do morning barn chores on the weekends then I can ride right after. My moms excuse for that was she didnt want to take me at 8 in the morning. So I said fine, what if I talked to the lady and asked if I could come a little later. Then she said she doesnt want to take me at all.
When she knows for a freakin fact I would die to do anything with horses. Gosh, I literally went up in my room and cried. Thats the last thing I can think of, theres like nothing else I can do. Besides wait until im 16 and have my own car. Which I guess thats what its going to have to come too.: (
pets question and answers,www.5d2d.com Do you have any ideas?
Gosh, im so pissed off right now: '(
I have been trying since I was eight and only got answers this month! How? Well, this may or may not work for you. My parents promised me a dog this year , thinking I would forget about it. But I didn't and they made a deal with me saying I can take lessons instead of getting a dog. This probably won't work for you.
Try this:
-Wait for when she's in a happy mood, like right before she goes to bed. Then tell her "Mom, I need you to tell me why you won't take me riding".
-Make her give you a reasonable explanation. It has to have all of these qualities: Why you can't go, and how that reason will affect her taking you. If she gives you a reasonable answer, think about ways around it and talk to her a week or so later.
-If she can't come up with a good reason/you find a way around her reason, tell her "I understand that riding is dangerous and expensive, but I will do what you want, make a deal with me please"!
pets question and answers,www.5d2d.com -Now have a pros and cons of riding with you and discuss them with her. The distance of travel, what you will lear, how happy you will be etc.
-Make a deal with her about getting better grades, doing your chores, or finding a way to buy your equipment with your own money. This way she can't complain about you not concentrating on anything else or you not paying for anything.
-Search the internet and look for an article that shows about how much exercise that riding gives you and how great it is for conditioning your body.
-Don 't start whining or begging because that will seem childish and she will use that against you.
-After all of this, if she still says no, make her give you an even better reason. Keep at her until she says yes ... or until you get your car.
-Maybe you could even just work there instead of riding?
Hope I helped and Good luck!
Don't ride your bike there. Biking doesn't develope the right muscles for riding.
pets question and answers,www.5d2d.com What you can do is not nag your mother and wait until you are an adult. I understand that is is agonizing to not be able to spend time with horses, but life isn't fair.
First of all ... not talking to your mom isn't going to help anything. That's being disrespectful, rude and hurtful. If you act like that, why should your mom let you start riding? Your mom has the power here, and the longer you act at all disrespectful , the longer it will be before she lets you ride. Even when your 16 and have your own car, your mom still has the power to take away your keys. Especially if she pays for the car.
So my advice is, ask her why. You have said over and over that your mom says no - but have you ever asked her why she doesn't want you to ride? Talk to her, without being rude or getting upset, and see if you can come up with an agreement. Maybe you do more chores around the house or help her with something in exchange for her driving you to the barn.
Your Mom does not share your love of horses ... mine did not either. Nothing will stop you, if you really want horses so bad in your life, you WILL make it work. But I am curious, how will you afford a car? or will your "Stupid Mom" buy it for you? Or , if you buy it yourself ... are you going to pay for the the insurance? or is your "Stupid Mom" going to make the payments? Are you planning on living on your own in the very near future .. or with your "Stupid Mom" until you go to College? There are sooo many Animal Science/Horsemanship College Degrees! Settle down & Level out girl ....
I am sorry I have had none of these problems because my own mom rides. I would first offer to just ride your bike there. It would be healthy for you and your mom would have no excuse for that. If that does not work i would ask the owner if she can come and pick you up. You would be surprised what people will do for you. To make your mom feel bad I would just sot [p talking to her. She will understand that you really mean it this time and hopefully support you thru this.
