My mare is leaving this next weekend to get an extra month of training and I just worry about her.
She is a rescue mare and she is in a really nice place now and I just worry that she is going to feel abandoned all over again when she goes to training.
She knows the trainer though because she has had training at our barn but needs it more consistantly.
Is it stupid to worry about her? Im just terrified that she is going to feel abandoned and when she comes back that she isn't going to remember anything.
You have no reason to worry.
As long as she is in a safe environment and is receiving a reasonable amount of attention by your trainer, I think she will feel right at home. Of course, she will go through a few days of settling in initially, like all horses do until they get used to her surroundings.
And you certainly don't have to worry that she won't remember anything when she comes back. Horses have amazing memories. They remember training when you'd think they'd long forget it (how else are you able to hop onto a horse after winter months of no riding?) and they also remember places very distinctly (my horse recognizes arenas that he has been to year after year for horse shows).
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It is good that you are this involved in her and are worried about her, but there's really no need to be. She will be just fine.
Its definitely not stupid to worry about her. You love her enough too be worried which is a good thing.
She will most likely be fine but if you can it would be good to visit her a couple of times.
Good on you for buying a rescued horse and giving her a chance at a new life.
Because she knows the trainer thats a big bonus as she's not being taken by some random then she would feel abandoned.
When you first drop her off, it should be ok if you stayed a while with her too make sure she feels safe. Give her a brush and even have a ride, make sure she has the things she will need bridle, saddle whatever as this will remind her of home.
Its normal for you to be worried about her shes like your baby or your best friend I'm guessing and i would be the same way, but she will be fine and adapt well if she has known this trainer for some time. Its not like your just giving her to a new place with absolutely no one there that she has met she still has that trainer and i might be better if you go and see her if you get a chance maybe even have he trainer have you help so you learn how to do some things too.
I don't think she will feel that way. But, I do think it would be more beneficial for both you and the horse if you could be involved with the training process. Especially if you are the main person that is going to be working with her and riding her. I do not agree with 'sending a horse off to the trainers'. It doesn't address one major thing, the relationship between the horse and owner.
If you are that worried about her feeling abanded. You could always give something to her like a piece of your clothing, that has your scent on it, maybe even a couple of shirts. I had to do that with my cat, when I left home for 3 weeks. If I didn't do that she would have kept on peeing on the bed. I also had to do this when my son was born. When I would leave him in his crib for nap time
pets question and answers,www.5d2d.com or even when he stayed at my mom's house. It's just a thought, give it a try.
PS I had to do this with my horse once. He went lame, due to a farrier in training. I would ussually stay with him in the barn. But I couldn't do that every night until he was better. So I gave
him a unwashed shirt to sleep with. It worked!!! He never got upset. Let me know. C
It's not stupid, but it's probably more of an issue for you than for her. She won't sit agonizing about how you "left" her for days-She'll scream for her horsey friends for a few hours, then find the food and settle in.
Usually it's the humans that get so bent out of shape.
You have a right to be worried. I'm sure everything will be just fine. If you don't think the trainer is going to give her that extra attention she needs, just voice your opinion. I'm sure the trainer will understand, and he/she will give the extra attention.:)
This is very normal to worry about her. Just make sure you spend lots of extra time with her to make her feel the same. Have fun!
It's not stupid at all! She's a part of your life and family so its good that you care for her that much. She'll be fine though. Don't worry ! She'll miss you too!!!
I'm sure she'll be fine. Maybe you can go and visit her?
