ok, so i live on a horse farm.. and we show miniature horses......but i ride hunter/jumper. me and my sister used to ride together ALL the time, but she just had a baby and moved out. so i am the only one here that rides. but my neighbor coaches her daughter and takes her to shows all the time. i have gone to 2 shows with them and i have trail ridden with them. so i want to ask her if she can coach me too, and if i can go to shows with her, since my mom and sister are always busy with the minis. of course we would pay her for lessons and showing, but how will i ask her this. i dont want to just go "hey can you coach me and take me showing with you". i want to ask her in a professional way and be really kind and stuff. my mom is gonna go down there with me to ask her, or my mom said to leave her a note. but what should i say to her????

Just go and ask saying that you have have seen her train her daughter and that you were wondering if they could do the same. Tell them that you are willing to pay for everything and would be good if she were to accept.

I promise it's really not as difficult as you're making it. As her if she'd be interested in taking you on as a student and if so, what her fees are. If she says yes, awesome. If she says no, ask her if she has suggestions for someone in the area to train you.

what i would do is just be like i see that you coach your daughter and i am looking for a coach and i was wondering if you wouldnt mind coaching me as well

just ask her when you are out together

Make it more general so you aren't embarrassed to ask, if that's the problem. Go riding with her or her daughter one day and just ask, "Do you ever teach lessons to other people?" If she's not interested at all, she'll say that she doesn't and that's that. If she says yes, ask her how much she charges and tell her you're looking for an instructor. By doing that, you're giving her business without putting her on the spot. If she does say no but you think she might make an exception for you if she realized you were the one that's interested, say, "Do you know of any local instructors around here that you would recommend? I'm thinking of taking some lessons. I can pay for them, I just don't know who to ask."

don't leave a note. that's kind of lame. You've trail ridden with them and have gone to shows, so they know you and would be open to talk to you.

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Simply go when you think she's there or call her and ask her.

I'd say something like....It was a lot of fun going to shows with you both, I was wondering if you'd consider sharing a ride to shows with me and my horse, I'd of course split the gas costs and pay my own entry fee for the shows. I just think it'd be really fun if we all went to shows together. What do you think?

A direct approach instead of a roundabout way is always best.

So, just be plain and simple and to the point.

Also...since you are a minor....your mom might consider coming too...so that she's held responsible for you and your horse....unless this woman wants to take on the responsibility of you and your horse....that's something that your mom and her would have to talk about.

Once you break the ice about showing together, you can all talk over the details.