Well, she's okay with me riding horses, but doesn't like me riding bareback faster then a walk, she won't watch me when I trot or lope, and heaven forbid I go over a six inch jump. When I wanted to do barrel racing (I still do, but I lost my barrel racing trainer) she would refuse to watch me trot the barrel pattern. Now there's this really nice jumping barn I might be able to get into (it's a lot closer then the other riding stable I wanted to go to) and I showed her, and she said she wouldn't help me "kill myself" at that barn. Lol. How do I stop her from worrying so much and let me go there instead? It will be a while before I learn how to jump (I'm gunna tell them I'm a complete beginner so I can be taught from the very beginning) anyway, and a very long time before I jump anything big. Years probably.

We fear what we don't know. You know that even though horses are dangerous, it's unlikely you'll be seriously injured (or worse) if you take precautions. Sure, things could go wrong, but that could happen while driving a car or walking across the street. My boyfriend is into motorcycles, and I am/was terrified of them. Since being around him, though, and seeing him and his friends ride them, I've become more knowledgeable about them and therefore less scared (though I still won't get on one...ha). Encourage your mom to watch you ride--even if it is at a walk. Show her how you control him and demonstrate the things you know how to do so that she sees that you are in control and you know what you're doing. Let her watch you take a lesson with a good instructor so that she sees that you are in good hands. Discuss with her the benefits--safety and otherwise--of training at a good barn with a qualified instructor rather than trying it on your own.

EDIT (to add an example): My aforementioned boyfriend is as terrified of horses--maybe more--as I am/was of motorcycles. When he first met Zip, he was scared to walk within ten feet of him. If I asked him to hold him, he'd panic if Zip so much as flicked an ear. Now? He'll work around him, hold him and lead him (and capably/confidently), and has even gotten on him and ridden him (with me next to him, leading him at a walk!). He still doesn't particularly like horses, and he has no desire to gallop off alone, but he gained so much confidence just by watching me work around him and seeing that they aren't as scary and dangerous as our ignorant minds sometimes like to make believe they are. Sure, Zip could decide to panic and kick me as I'm grooming him, but he's well-trained and fairly calm and I don't expect that to happen. My boyfriend has watched me groom him enough times--while Zip stands still and doesn't do anything dangerous--to realize that I'm not likely to get seriously hurt doing something normal.

I agree with the last poster- horses are dangerous. But I can see why you're frustrated.
If you're taking lessons from an experienced, qualified instructor on well-trained, safe horses, then you mother has no more to fear than normal.

Try to get her to take a few lessons. Maybe she will learn to enjoy riding, or at least not be quite so frightened of horses, which she obviously is.
I don't see why she's communicating her wishes to you by refusing to watch you trot in a saddle. Doesn't seem very effective to me :/ I prefer to not have my mom watch me, as she likes to try to give me pointers. She can't even jog her horse, lol.

If a horse is going to act up, it doesn't matter if he's galloping or standing still. A

She has every right to be worried about you. Horse back riding is a very dangerous sport and many people die every year and thousands suffer serious injuries. About 7 years ago I was endurance racing in oregon, my horse slipped on a grade and rolled over onto me, crushing my hip between him and a boulder. I had to be careflighted to a hospital and had to have a complete hip replacement at the age of 19. It was no ones fault, but accidents happen.

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Try to reasure her you are aware of the danger you put yourself in, but you are very careful and follow every safety precaution you can. That its no worse that riding a bike really fast down a road. You may even be able to find a very calm horse for her to take beginner walk lessons on. If she refuses, then do with what you can.

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