I dont own a horse but i trained and have grown to love this cheasnut gelding that i ride. i did horse shows with him this whole show season and i love him to death. we have created such a strong bond. i cant afford to buy him, well i can just not the up keep. the other day i went for my lesson, i told my teacher i was going to go get him and she told me i couldnt because he was bieng leased and the girl was riding him. i found out that this girl might buy him. ive been crying for a while now. they did the same thing to the last horse i got close with, he was misunderstood and i cared for him and we created a bond and they gave him away because everyone was afraid to ride him. i dont want this to happen again. i dont know what to do. any advice, in getting over this. im really upset. has this ever happened to you. i just need to know that im not stupid for feeling this way.

Its hard, I've always been fortunate enough of having my own horses. But i cannot imagine being in this situation.

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Can you talk to the barn owner and work off his board? and get a part time job somewhere?

Edit: Maybe things happen for a reason? Ask the girl if you could ride him one last day, and just take the time that you have with him left and start looking for a new one to ride. Maybe this means letting this guy go, the right situation will come along and everything will fall into place.

Yeah it's happened a lot with me ... It really sucks, but somehow I always manage to get over it. Just think about all of the good things that are still at the place you ride, and if you really can't convince them to keep him, then ask them to find a horse just for you. And you're definetely NOT stupid for feeling like that. I refused to go back to the ranch for a month and cried hysterically when I did because i didn't want to go back to the "terrible place that had the nerve to get rid of him"

Good luck:)

real life experiences ...:/

Thats the thing about riding ..... you have heartbreaks. But you cant let that bring you down. I train Barrel and Pole Horses and I get attached very easy. But just because I love the horse to death doesnt mean I can keep it around if it isnt going to cut the program. As somebody else can use them and be successful with them. Its hard but you MOVE ON. I cry everytime, but I keep my mind straight while he is being bought. Because thats the business im in and thats the business I chose.

I had something like this happen i had this horse for a few years and we could read each other right away i always knew how he felt by the way he stood at the gate and in the patureand he knew how i felt. but i go another horse and durning the winter when i got this new horse. He bucked me off in the pasture and i broke my arm, he came and helped me out and i couldnt do anything because, i broke my uper arm and all i could do was watch them and just hang out with them and my horse that i had for years was a horse that can sit with out going crazy, and so he got to wild and started to attack the horses and other animals.

so we had to give hm back to my aunt and the night before they came he cut his leg open and we cleaned him up and they came and loaded him in the trailer. (he always walked right in but that day he reared up with a huge gash on the back left leg and refused to go in) and he knew something was wrong and then they hauled him away and i walked away crying and took out my other horse and we went for a ride down the road, he had to get stiches and he had to be in a stal for 2 weeks i never saw him for a year and a half and the day we went to see him and ask to get him back we got a ranch and the person told us he died over 4 months before and never told his owners or us so i never got my horse back and ill never see him again and the last time was when he was hurt and confused i never got to ride him again.

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You are certainly not STUPID for crying or feeling upset. I think you'd be stupid for not crying in a situation like this.
Yes, this has happend to me before and it is EXTREMELY heart-breaking. Especially when you know and loved the horse more than anything in the world. It is just like losing your best friend. Don't get me wrong, like the other girl said-things like this happen for a reason. pets question and answers,www.5d2d.com
Perhaps you should think about a new horse to buy or ride. Cheer up, and think about the futre. Try and get the girls phone number and let her know how close the 2 of you were - She might understand and let you ride or spend time with the horse.

I would get something to distract you from the issue-eg. a dog? or something that makes you feel so happy with and will be there for you at times like this. Sorry for babbling on! I didn't realise how much I had written hahaha. So, yeah like I said .... cheer up, give the girl a call and if she is nice she'll understand.