my male cat was found dead yesterday after being missing for 3 days: '(, (he was only 3) i have another female cat who was from the same batch of cats, since having my son a year ago she hasn't wanted to come into the hosue, and spends all her time outside and in the garage (same as my male cat), she has been crying since he went missing and just doesn't seem her self, i'm worried she maybe lonely and have tried to bring her in but she is not having any of it, i'm worried about her, what can i do for her? i don't want another cat as i'm completely heartbroken that my male cat has passed but i don ' t want to be selfish and keep her for her to be lonely! i know it sounds stupid but i love my cats and they really are part of my family!
do you think she will be ok or do you think i should start looking for another home where she will have people and possibly another cat? she is quite timid and i'm worried she is thinking we have deserted her! it's a big old garage to be on her own!!
please sensible answers! a very upsetting subject for me at the moment!
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thanks for any answers i do get x
This happened to one of my cats earlier this year. Delilah was very ill and passed away, for days her brother (Samson) would walk around meowing like he was looking for her. He does not do this any more but does seem a bit better and has adopted some of Delilah's mannerisms (strange I know). Try not to worry, feed her treats and pay lots of attention to her. I completely feel your pain my oldest cat was put down this morning. My thoughts go out to you x
I am sorry for your loss. The female cat is probably lonely but there isn't much you can do to bring back your male cat. Can you invite her into your home ? Cats that go outside only live to an average of 2 years of age. She would be safer inside and have you to be her friend. Try feeding her just inside the door. Each week move the food dish a little farther inside the house.
She is grieving just like you. It will take time but, keep trying to help her. I don't think sending her away is a good idea she would see that as a rejection from you. you must keep her in her familiar environment. She will get over it, as indeed will you but, time is all it takes. just keep reassuring her that you love her.
its possible that she dose not realize that he has passed yet, only cause what ever has caused your cat to die, he obviously had some warning (cats often like to die alone).
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she will realize soon enough, and she will pull through.
i am sorry for your (and her) loss.
plus you should check out what might have been the cause, we don't want her to get into anything that he might have.
She is mourning, just like we do. All you can do is make a huge fuss, special food, treats etc, and try to coax her inside.
She'll probably be "needier" now, I'd think. She'll look for her brother for a while but she'll get over it. A lot faster than you will. Sorry you lost him.
She will adjust and be fine. Don't worry. Be patient, it's early days yet. She'll be OK.
The female is probably grieving for the loss of her littermate. Try to lure the cat into the house with food or toys. If you can't do that, make sure she has an enclosure and comfortable space in the garage.
Don't send her away. This will be even more traumatizing to her. I know you're grieving over the loss of your cat, but she is, too. There's no guarantee adopting another cat will help, but you can certainly try. You won't be replacing the male who passed, you will be giving another cat a chance at life and providing your female cat with a companion.
She will be okay eventually. It's the same for them as it is for us in the grieving process. I had a roommate that had a cat and my dog and her cat seemed to mesh really well. They loved having each other for company. She we parted ways, my dog had a big issue being home alone all day long by herself. She eventually adjusted. Maybe try to set aside some time that you can go out into the garage and sit down with her and pet her and hold her or something so she is getting some attention. See if she gets better after a while.
Whatever you do, just don't send her away. That would make a bad situation worse, she's obviously grieving for her loss. And no, cats that live outside do not have an average lifespan of 2 years, that's ridiculous. Either or, you should be patient with her. If you can afford it, try finding a new mate for her in a month or so. She'll be fine, cats can adjust themselves to anything. Am just very sorry for your loss.
I like yourself had two kittens from the same litter, called Hobo and Tigerlily, when Hobo got knocked over and died Tigerlily mourned for her brother, she recovered and turned into a totally different cat like yours she was timid and was never a lap cat that all changed she likes sitting on laps and sharing a bed with my daughter, have you shown your cat the body as this helps them to understand what has happened, she is feeling abandon by her brother so don't get rid of her she has lost enough if you do decide to get a friend for her take your time let her dedevelo into life without her brother first. I am sorry for the loss of your cat and hope the remaining one will be fine
