I have a quaker parrot and she was given to us about a year ago. Her wings are clipped and she goes in and out of her cage and she has a bunch of toys she plays with and does her preening. When she came to us she had been abused and she doesn't like men. That is only part of the problem, the problem is that i go online and look for ways to train her but the thing is she is afraid of everything. I try and reward her for doing something right or good but she is terrified of the fruit or veggies and if its a toy, she only likes the toys that are hanging in her cage. If i put a grape or carrot or anything that doesn't come with her food in her food bowl, she doesn't even go near it, i have to take out the fruit or veggie i put in so she can eat again. She has gotten a lot better since we got her, when i get near her she doesn't scream, she only screams if my hand is too close to her or her cage or if any man or someone who really scares her. I need help, i know this takes time and its been a year but i just want to see more progress. Please i need some really good advice or some help!

Good on you for adopting a parrot with problems. I myself have a rescue Quaker who was neglected/abused in her previous home. pets question and answers,www.5d2d.com
Except my girl hates women. Except me- I think she sees me as her mum.

There are a stack of books out there that are really helpful with parrot behavour and training- and I highly recommend looking into them for some really good advice that you can keep on hand.
When I first took Connor in, I read a book- I think it was called 'guide to a well behaved parrot' or something like that- by Mattie Sue Athan.
There was a heap of advice that was incredibly helpful- even though the book wasn't targeted at abused parrots, there was some great advice on how to bond with a new bird, and how to build confidence.
Mattie Sue Athan http://www.positivelyparrots.com/
& Barbara Heidenreich http://www.goodbirdinc.com/
are two well known authors and parrot behaviourists, with a heap of great advice on how to read your parrot and how to train them.

Have you tried eating the new foods you are introducing to your Quaker? As they say 'monkey see, monkey do'. Animals can be fearful of trying new foods- but when you eat them first, you are telling them they are safe to eat. By eating around your Quaker and allowing her to share your food (as long as it is relatively healthy, not dangerous for birds, and she isn't eating loads of fatty foods, etc it is fine to share food with her) or having a taste of her food before you feed her, you can help build a bond, and make her more explorative when it comes to dinner time.

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I haven't had many issues introducing new toys- but I have heard of plenty of people who have. I think the trick is to introduce them very slowly. Like- have the toy on the opposite side of the room for a week, and then gradually bring it closer to the birds cage over a period of a few weeks. If she has access outside of her cage you may want to place the toy in an area she can't quite reach, and then if she is showing any interest towards it, move it closer to the cage so she can investigate. Obviously once she is happy with the toy you can introduce it properly.

What type of toys does she like? My Quaker loves 'shredding' and 'preening' toys- finding toys that pique your birds interest will help encourage her to be more investigative towards new toys.

Good luck with your Quaker- and please invest in some parrot behaviour and training books or DVDs- they have so much great information that you just can't write on one of these sites.